The advice is that if you are carrying the conversation on your own, then it should be a ‘bless and release’.

If they don’t ask you any questions, then it is a ‘bless and release’.

And if you aren’t curious, then it is a ‘bless and release’.

The point is that if they can’t ‘co-create’ a conversation they won’t be able to co-create a date, much less a relationship.