Are you feeling sad today? I can empathise. I have been feeling sad lately too. Someone who had made me feel like they cared for me, left me suddenly and I have had feeling sad thoughts ever since. I am starting to come good, but I thought I would share some of the things that helped me. And self-compassion statements are top of the list!
Yearning for kindness
Today I was grinding through the day – and then suddenly just before lunch I had a wave of sadness that made me feel like I just needed a hug, and some kind words from someone to care. Now, I am not alone in not having a friend to call when I feel bad. So many of us have this problem. If you have friends you can call when you are going through dark times, I would encourage you to love them hard. I hope you know what you’ve got!
I am an introvert though, and I can find it hard to bond with some people, so I don’t have that ‘closeness’ with a friend (locally) that would allow me to call them up and share the sadness in my heart with them.
The good thing is that even if you don’t have a friend or friends who would support you during the dark times, it becomes clear over time, that you don’t need to look outside yourself for validation. All the kindness, support, and love you need is within you. And so is that warm hug – if you have the right skills to be able to tap into that part of yourself.
Self-compassion statements
Today, after realising that I was despondent, I remembered the Self Compassion meditations that I have. It suddenly felt like such a healing answer. And within that list was a meditation about finding kind words to say to yourself – or self-compassion statements, I call them.
It was the absolute best remedy for my sad, lonely heart. I hugged myself tight, put my hand over my heart, felt the warmth and found the words that I needed to hear and told them to myself, both out loud and internally. Those feeling sad thoughts started to melt away and I was able to get back into work and into my day.
Everything you need inside
You don’t actually need anyone to say kind things to you (as nice as it would be). You have everything within yourself to develop self-compassion statements that will nourish you and warm you from the inside.
These are the meditations that will help:
Finding loving-kindness phrases: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1P7RKQ3sYre7-BOe8INSdq4rEnnRXGLaR/view?usp=sharing
Loving kindness for ourselves: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iGDcs19-AmKv7P35Q3RRTRIyk7Bp1bLL/view?usp=sharing
Feeling sad thoughts – they come and go like the weather
Feeling sad is a feeling that comes and goes. If it is hanging around for longer than two weeks and you find that you are having difficulty doing things in your life that you used to do, then please go to your doctor and start the process to get some help, because that might be the start of depression.
Feeling sad, however, can actually be a helpful feeling. It can help you to see ways in which you wish your life was different and give you the push to make changes. As a feeling, sadness will come and go like the weather. With these tools, you will be able to emerge from your sad feelings as a stronger and wiser person.
Good luck. Sending love.
Mindful Self-Compassion meditation credit:
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“Warm Hugs” by garry_dav is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 2.0.
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