the will to live
Something is sucking all the joy out of my life, and I think it might be the cutting down of this connection (but I am not sure). If I could really trust that person, and [...]
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04, 2025
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04, 2025
a good reason
Another school holiday period. Something has clicked into place in my mind. And now when I see Dads with their kids, and family photos of men with their families I finally understand that this is [...]
30
03, 2025
the changing weather of grief
I feel so sad for my friend who lost her husband of 40 years today. I am wondering how she must be feeling, and if it feels empty and bleak, or rich and soft with [...]
30
01, 2025
Virtual co-regulation or the start of something challenging
Some therapists believe that the pathway to secure attachment lies in healing of our dysregulated nervous systems. This is the realm of Polyvagal theory. It makes sense to me intellectually. However, engaging in the co-regulating [...]
20
12, 2024
understanding men
It is so interesting to learn about male psychology and biology. I am noticing that I perceive men in such a different way as I build this knowledge. I see them 'from their point of [...]
15
12, 2024
the stigma, perhaps, , , is that it?
I spoke to a psychologist friend of mine today. Two things came out of the conversation. The first is that it is hard on my soul to be 'friends with a psychologist', despite the fact [...]
3
10, 2024
break, nother fook
Like a billiard table. Every time I put something out into this sphere, the energy shifts, and changes. One ball bouncing off another. And the blessed (but unfortunate) way that expressing emotions takes away their [...]
26
01, 2024
Negotiating a trauma bond
Dear goodness...I am so grateful that I will have my first appointment with a sexual assault counsellor next week. The therapy was initiated due to a previous act of violence towards me, but I am [...]
9
11, 2023
Winnicott transitional object in adult life
I find it very interesting that often when a particular long-term love interest finds its way back into my life I start reaching for my toy rabbit to cuddle. It is such an intuitive response [...]
25
09, 2023
Something funny
In my defence, haha. Instagram has been feeding me such wonderful supportive posts lately, seemingly based on the pain I have been feeling. But there is nothing better than comedy for healing, am I right?